Value System

My value system has been questioned the past few days and i don't like the feeling. Firstly, auntie showed me a pic of the target she wants to introduce and i immediately turned her down. She ain't fat but overweight, however from her radiant smile and from what i've heard, i could tell that she has a good personality. Geez, a year back, i would have jumped at the opportunity to meet her, but sadly though, things have changed. In search of that "perfect" partner, i place an emphasis on both personality and looks, ok, i know perfect seems too absolute a word but you get my drift. Sometimes i wonder if all these efforts are being put to waste, perhaps i should just settle for who i can. But no, my friend questioned me last night, will you be happy, and of course the answer was an obvious no :(

This friend of mine has his own problems, he is in the midst of breaking up with his wife. Things haven't really gone well with them for the past few months, and many things already transpired... too many to mention here. The question was raised as to whether if she was to do a 180, whether he will take her back, and his answer was "yes". I challenged him to that, after so many things that have happened, how can you say yes? How can you trust her? How can you forgive her? He said "i can understand where you are coming from but the difference between you and me is that i fear God". And i was thinking like *OUCH* He did not deliberately question my religious beliefs although they are highly questionable. He added "Marriage to me is a covenant, and until otherwise, i am answerable to God for this marriage". Speechless and defeated, i did not argue further because i knew it was futile to challenge such a higher power.